Change in the world starts in you. We are all accountable to our own actions. But if you become parents, you are as well accountable to God on how you raise your children.
I’m always reminded by Teach with Joy’s blog about how we’re only stewards of God’s creation. Our children is not ours and we ought to raise them according to God’s plan for God’s glory. However, the earth we live is filthy and sinful. We can’t protect our children from the outside harm, but we need to raise with head-on what reality is. We need to prepare them for bigger battle and that is, the spiritual battle.
Raising compassionate children and growing a compassionate family makes you a blessing towards others who see life in a bad light. We need more love and not hate. For God did not send the Son into the world to judge the world, but that the world might be saved through Him. (John 3:17 KJV)
So, how can you be more successful in building your family?
#1 Acknowledge your blessings
17 Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.
Count your many blessings name them one by one and it will surprise you what the Lord has done…
I love how that song goes. In order to raise compassionate family, first, we must acknowledge how blessed we are. We may not have all the things that we prayed for, but we have what we need. Let’s be honest, sometimes we pray out of our heart’s selfishness but God never fail His promises for us.
When we live a life full of gratefulness it helps us to be more present. It makes you more sensitive about others and their needs.
#2 Be a blessing to others
10 For we are his workmanship, created in Christ Jesus unto good works, which God hath before ordained that we should walk in them.
We need to raise our children with the awareness that we should act accordingly not to please us parents but to please God. The bible clearly describes on the characteristics that we must display as Christians.
22 But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, longsuffering, gentleness, goodness, faith,
23 Meekness, temperance: against such there is no law.
Being a blessing to others doesn’t only mean giving physical gifts but you can also be a blessing to others through their patience. Understanding that someone might be having a bad day and turns out why he/she is vile in dealing with you and as we Christians, we ought to respond in kindness and meekness.
#3 Make giving a lifestyle
35 I have shewed you all things, how that so labouring ye ought to support the weak, and to remember the words of the Lord Jesus, how he said, It is more blessed to give than to receive.
Random act of giving is something anyone can do. Giving to random people you see in the street, sharing your blessing during Christmas season. However, making giving as a lifestyle entails a lot of commitment not just having to give during random situations (which also good).
Encourage your children to make a commitment to give and have them live up to it. They can start by volunteering and helping to causes that matter. If they’re big enough, they can volunteer at church during Sunday to teach to other children. Or they can simply take a portion of their allowance to give to missions.
#4 Preach the Gospel
15 And he said unto them, Go ye into all the world, and preach the gospel to every creature.
The death, burial and resurrection of the Lord Jesus Christ is the good news of salvation. He died on the cross, shed His blood to cleanse us all from unrighteousness. He was the ultimate sacrifice to pay for our sins.
Accepting Him as your personal saviour will change anyone’s life (if you don’t know how, head on here.)
Sharing the gospel and salvation, will turn anyone’s life 360 degrees with you real encounter with Jesus Christ. I love how Pastor Peter Tan-chi of CCF explains why he believes that Christ was real as per the scriptures.
#5 Be a role model
1 Timothy 4:12
12 Let no man despise thy youth; but be thou an example of the believers, in word, in conversation, in charity, in spirit, in faith, in purity.
As parents, our children learn best from us. They trust us. Be a model of good character to them. I am no perfect parent either. I crack under pressure. Three kids with full time work and a whole lot of chores, life can get really frustrating. No one said it’s going to be easy. We have to remember, our biggest battles should be fought and won on bended knees.
I’m not in my best spot yet but God promised that the best is yet to come. I remind myself that my greatest converts will be my children. I continue to pray that I will continue to be better that my children will be inspired on the life that we have because of my relationship with the Creator.